For some days now, I have become more self-aware of who I am, where I am, where I want to be, what I am currently doing that I need to do better. More than ever, the need to be true to ‘me’ is now so important. I needed to take more practical steps towards living fully without holding myself back or waiting to be applauded before getting anything done. I thought fear was the major hold, but then again, fear becomes a hold only when we give it the power!

I had a re-awakening of what I consider essential to living fully. Choosing people’s expectations of me over my own expectations had put me under pressure; unhealthy one at that. The need to fit in and to measure up was a whole lot to take in without permitting myself to say no when and where necessary.

I thought about how we are constantly told what to do and how to do it through the information we expose ourselves to online and offline. We often forget that the ‘what’ and “how” should be about who we are, what we want, and how we want it. A typical example of this is how we measure success and define fulfillment. We tend to measure how successful we are based on someone else’s level of achievement; we ignore the crucial part: ‘ success is personal .’ We forget about ourselves so much that we are unaware of self-neglect.

Defining what success means to me has helped to restrategize my goals, boundaries, standards, and ultimately, God’s expectations of me. And let me tell you, It has been exciting! I can now freely do things without waiting for another person to give a thumbs up, nor do I shrink or shut myself down because I feel I am not doing enough per time.


Have a beautiful weekend.